First dates make it easier with practice, but can still be a difficult show. I guess anytime we are thrust into a new situation is going to be a certain level of anxiety, and yes clumsiness. [Read: How to Start a Winning Conversation with Someone You Meet]
It’s the same for women and all that is waiting is that we will try not to be a downer on the whole thing complete. No pressure, eh. But beyond that first date nerves aspect, it is possible that I read about how the first date went? Probably there are some clues. Let’s look at some things that can give us an idea of what you’re thinking.
You decide to walk her all the way home even though she lives across town. Once there, she suddenly does not need to be home. You then decide that you want to have a cup of coffee (even though you both hate caffeine). You chitchat over cake (that you do not touch) until the wee hours of the morning only to circle around town until sunrise. Too bad you’ve got to be at work in 1 hour. [How to Get Out of a Bad Date Nicely]
If you stay on one conversation topic for a long time, it’s because you find the conversation to be genuinely interesting, and not because you’re simply relieved to have found something easy to talk about and want to get as much mileage out of it as you can before you’re forced to fill the awkward silence with another random topic.
One of the greatest key signs that a first date went well is body language. Did the person you asked out make eye contact with you the entire time? Did they smile frequently? Did they lean in toward you while you were talking? If the answer to these questions is yes, it is certain that special someone is interested in you and enjoyed being on a date with you.
Does your date say thank you and excuse me? Do they give you courtesy calls or see if you are good before thinking about themselves. In other words, they don’t burp in your face or eat the last bread roll without offering it to you. If your date has manners than that is a good thing.
When you and your date both have a common curiosity for each other, this will help you start and carry conversations to help you learn more about them and determine if there is a chemistry between you. With each new idea or fact that you have discovered about your date will help you form opinions of them and enhance you chances of long term relationship success. First dates are supposed to be about opening up and giving your date various kinds of different information about you.
Use of Future Tense
If someone wants to see you again, they tend to speak in the future tense. “I know a great place you would like, we should try it out,” or “I think you would love to hear this person perform, let’s go some day.” What’s happening is, your date is beginning to include you into their plans. I’m not suggesting they are thinking about marriage, or getting settled with you, but they are thinking of events, and things to go to, with you in the picture. If there’s any indication that someone wants to see you again, this is it. There’s also a high chance that you’ll end up on a second date.
They don’t invite you into their apartment. Sleeping with someone on the first date usually means “You’re cool and stuff but I kind of just want to get it in and never call you back.” By keeping it chaste with a simple make out sesh, you’re telling the person that you would like to see them again. You just need a build-up and some preservation of mystery first. By denying them a “tour” of your place, it’s like you’re giving yourself insurance, a guaranteed call-back.
This sign is an obvious one! If you miss this one, there is no help left for you. If you get a goodnight (or goodbye) kiss, this means there is definitely more in store for you both. A kiss is a simple sign of affection, though some women say they will never kiss on the first date. If you aren’t one of those women (or you are a man), the first goodnight kiss will be a great memory for your future dates.
This is a sign of both attraction and being eager. Most women will not call a man, they wait on the man to call first. If you are a man that received a call from the women you went out on a date with, that is a huge signal, take it and run! Women, if you get a call from the man you went out with last night, take it as a huge compliment as well.