Telling a friend that her husband may be cheating can be a hard task for you. You risk insulting the husband of your friend and damage the relationship of your friend. If the accusation is correct, their sense of security and feelings of self-esteem can suffer. If you are also a friend to the husband, he can blame a traitor. [Read: How to Keep Your Man From Cheating]. Although issues vary in circumstances, which usually leave multiple victims hurt the partner and test the loyalty of friends and family members. Her friend and her husband may initially be troublesome; but its sensitivity can transform their choice to tell in an act of service.
Right thing to Do
Not telling the friend encourages her husband to continue the cheating and infidelity. Cheating is a knowingly done misdeed. It must be stressed that the teller remember that his actions are not what may cause a dissolution of the marriage if it occurs. Rather, it was the act of cheating. However, the must act is to keep your friend aware of the facts related to her husband.
When you tell a woman that her husband is cheating, you are putting yourself directly in the line of fire. Consider the range of reactions you can get news: anger, shame and disbelief. She may even accuse you of lying, simply because she is not ready to face the truth. You can avoid adding fuel to the fire by assuring her that you care about her feelings and being there to support her through this difficult time. Never speak ill of her husband, no matter how you feel about him. Tell her deeply sorry to be the one telling the story, but regret even more if she found someone else who knew and kept it. [Read: What Women Should Never Tolerate in a Relationship]
Don’t Degrade Her Family Ego
So if you say, be very, very careful to still speak highly of him, just to share the bare minimum and never speak ill of him or his marriage. Even if she reacts with anger toward him, tell her to understand the feelings, but do not agree with it or express your own opinion. What he did was something that hurts, but he is not a bad man. Even if she leaves him finally it heal better if people around you are devaluing or not fuel their anger.
Talk With Proof
She may need serious comforting or proof or she may want to yell at you and call you names. She may be in denial. Either way, explaining that he felt compelled to tell because you’re her friend, even though he knew the news would be difficult for her to take. Make her understand if she no longer wants to talk to you even if you disagree. When you are choosing to reveal a secret that could ruin the marriage of a woman, he must accept the consequences.
Why You Want To Do This
You need to check your own motives. Are you doing this for your friend or yourself? Are you doing this because you can not hold this secret any longer, or because you think it is really in your best interests? [Top 10 Likely Reasons Why Men Cheat in a Relationship]. As told earlier you must also be prepared for the fact she may stand by her husband and the marriage and your friendship may suffer as a result.