You have noticed that men have short attention spans, and your boyfriend is a proof of this statement. However, you are in love with him and you are afraid that eventually you will lose interest in you, and replace with another girl. And you really want to keep your interest. But how is that done? Lets see!
How Keep Him Interested # 1
Don’t be a Drag
Do not be annoying. Do not let your infatuation with him becoming a kind of luggage. Control your jealousy.
Yes, of course you can hate her gorgeous best friend, but not always going to see that. Do not call ten times a day just to check on him – men are not really the type of phone people. Call only if you really have something to say. If you are constantly chasing eventually run away from you.
How Keep Him Interested # 2
A man wants to be respected for his thoughts and actions, and the way you communicate this to him is by showing appreciation.
So start noticing the different ways he makes you happy, and thank him for it – often. Acknowledge even the smallest things he does that you like. Show him how he adds to your life, rather than focusing on the things that bother you. Don’t worry about him thinking that you’re faking your appreciation; just genuinely be grateful for the good things he does, and he will be more inclined to keep doing them. When a man does not feel he is contributing positively to your life, his attraction for you wanes; and it will be much more difficult for him to stay engaged in the relationship.
Appreciation is the fuel that feeds a man’s passion for you and makes him not want to leave your side. Start showing him the appreciation he needs, and you’ll find yourself with a man who starts showing up in your relationship…wholeheartedly.
How Keep Him Interested # 3
It’s alright to throw a fussy fit now and then if your guy disrespects you. But no matter what, don’t exaggerate a situation or blow it out of proportion just to prove a point. Guys can see through the acts of even the best drama queens.
How Keep Him Interested # 4
Care About His Likes
Everyone likes to talk about themselves. It’s a natural fact of life. Instead of dwelling on you and your past relationships, ask him questions that show him you are interested in him. If you get him going about his past and his experiences — and can stand sitting through the occasional boring story — he’ll feel like he’s connected with you and has a bigger bond to build on.
How Keep Him Interested # 5
Don’t let your intimate moments become ruled by routine. Surprise him once in a while with some real male fantasy. Let him tie you. Put jelly on him and lick it off. Do a striptease. [How to be a Better Girlfriend] See a “dirty movie” together. Sex is supposed to be fun, you know? Don’t let it be choreographed and predictable. Try learning the secrets of tantric sex. Know your moves in bed and everywhere else. Have sex in different places, role play with him, wear an apron and nothing else while cooking something special, tie his hands to the bedpost. Seduction doesn’t stop in bed. Be sexy around him and be creative wherever you go.
How Keep Him Interested # 6
Appearance is not everything, and let’s face it, a lot of guys who know how to think, as long as something is not covered in stains that can be used for almost any event, but men do not enjoy feeling like you’ve made an effort to them. We are not suggesting that you get a face full of makeup at all times, but after the fourth date is already answering the door in sweatpants, you may want to rethink your strategy for keeping your new guy interested. No need cocktail dresses and stilettos, but opt for something polished and assembled.
How Keep Him Interested # 7
He prefers you to other girls, so show you’re proud of yourself! Dress to impress without showing too much flesh on your first couple of dates, and make sure you don’t go over the top with hair and makeup. Guys are attracted to natural beauty; a fake tan and spidery eyelashes probably aren’t attractive to him.
Be youthful and feminine, as if you tumbled out of bed looking perfect — a cute dress, tinted moisturizer, nude or berry lipstick and a flick of mascara is all it takes. Don’t compare yourself to other women. Not even in a way that seems acceptable. To a guy, this comparison screams “insecurity,” and the guy is suddenly worried that he might have to be your psychologist instead of your boyfriend.
How Keep Him Interested # 8
Give Him Space
Even in the early stages, relationships are about give and take. If he loves the fact that you have your own social life outside of dates with him, then you have to return the favor. If he’s hitting the town with the guys, resist the temptation to turn into a jealous girlfriend and assume that he’s going to start kissing every pretty girl in sight. [Read: How to Give Space in a Relationship to Your Boyfriend]. Your jealously will only push him away. He needs to spend time with his friends, both male and female for the same reasons that you do.
How Keep Him Interested # 9
Avoid Sex on First Date
If you’re looking for a relationship, avoid having sex on the first date. Many guys say that even if they are really into a girl, if they sleep with her right away, on some subconscious level they lose interest in having a relationship with her. It’s like the old adage: why buy the cow if the milk is free? If he really likes you, making him wait will only make him respect you more.
Until your relationship is established, because if you do It will cause the initial excitement (which is the chase) to quickly drain and most guys like a chase so if you give them what they want before there is even a relationship then there’s really nothing left for them to chase because they’ve already gotten the prize which is why most guys don’t want to be in relationships because you allow them to get the goodies without being in one first.
How Keep Him Interested # 10
Live Your Life
Having your own interests and hobbies is another important aspect to keep the kids attracted to you. Do your own thing means that it depends on him instantly and wanting to spend 24/7, especially when you do see it you will have more to talk about. Devote full attention to the guy you like may seem like a good idea, but it is too soon available can also make you look desperate, which can be a big turnoff to some guys.
Suddenly, all our time is spent with them, and the things we had time for when we were single get put on the back burner. It’s not easy, but try to keep your hobbies/friends/interests these are the things that made you YOU in the first place, and attracted him. Of course, it’s only natural to being sharing interests and hobbies and all that jazz together, which is great and lovely and swoon-worthy-but hell, here’s how I think of it, those few hours I’m shopping with my girl friends is time for him to be cultivating his own interests and hobbies.