You may think you have found the man of your dreams, but you’re starting to get a bad feeling in your gut. You can not pinpoint why, but you’re getting the feeling that your boyfriend is using you. Could it be that you are using for a number of things: sex, money, popularity, or anything else that serves his needs, [Read: How to Tell that He Only Wants Sex]. If this is the case, then it is important to get as soon as you’re sure it is not in the relationship for the right reasons.
Compare your present situation with those of your friends. If you’re the only one whose boyfriend does not take the check at dinner, which can be a clear sign that your boyfriend is using you. [Signs He is Serious About Relationship with You]. Ask your friends what they think of certain behaviors. If all of your friends think that he is crossing the line, then he is likely to be the one.
He is Interested in Sex Only
Physical intimacy is an integral part of a relationship between a man and a woman, but how close intimacy is that? He is concerned about your needs and pleasures, while they have sex or is just being playing selfish during the whole act. Women give pleasure to man to avoid any friction in the relationship and some use this handle to manipulate them emotionally. If you feel that he intuitively manipulate you for sex then it should be clear that he has no emotional investment in the relationship. This can only be decided when you know a man who is with you.
No More Dates!
He has only taken you on one effective date, and that was before you slept with him. [How to Deal With Moody Boyfriend].He does not take you out to dinner, dancing or to the cinema. If you do not happen to take you out, you may need to pay in person. Usually, the time spent together is just hanging out at each others places. Behind closed doors. And, they often head close to the bedroom when they (or he) walk in the door. In fact, when you think about it, there’s not that many enjoyable or ‘sharing’ moments with him at all that don’t involve sex, or you find yourself sitting there ‘hanging’ set of in front of the TV.
Your Friends Hate Him
You may deny it, but then when you do a simple mapping calculation of the financial statements give and take in your so-called “relationship” in the column “take” is patently empty. Sure, maybe hit a financial roadblock, but it would kill him to clean house or cook for you, or if you really need to camp at your place all day at work on a butt print in your couch?
Invite this guy to do some special favor or any important task for you. If he refuses to do so or he says he will, but do not follow through then he can use you. Of course, there are exceptions and if he refuses once that does not establish a pattern. However, if you repeatedly refuses these requests, then the boy is with you.
He is Always Busy
It is good to have a busy schedule, but if it means your boyfriend will never find time for dinner and a movie, but can always find time for a little’ rest between the sheets, then it is not busy – he just wants to get busy. If you know that he has time to go out with friends, going to sporting events, and spending hours watching TV with his brother, but when he is too busy to enjoy a coffee in a Sunday afternoon, then simply do not want to do time for yourself.
He is a Cheater
Your boyfriend wants more interest in your friend than you. He continues to ask her, urges you to bring her along the next time you plan to be on a date. He asked for her phone number, [Reasons Why Men Cheat in a Relationship]. These are clear signs of him being a cheater. He is using just to start a relationship with your friend. You must immediately take a position. Call your so-called relationship with the so-called lover. Also, warn your friend of indecent intentions of this man.
He uses you for Money
Even if the guy is supposed to pay in principle, constantly find yourself paying for every single thing when two outputs. Do you think that seems to be the case with your relationship? This is definitely one of the first signs that you are using. While it is good to split the bill, you should not be constantly pulling out his wallet to pay for all the time.