Everyone wants a life which they spent with a person who truly loves them and only them. The problem is that in this materialistic world it’s very difficult to find someone who sincerely is in love with you and not with the fortune of family money you come along as a package with. Considering the laws and authority a woman has that after marriage she has the legal right to share everything with you can make you reconsider marrying a girl of your dreams as she can run away with half of your money and leave you all in tears. The key is to look out for signs and make sure that your pattern is really in love with you and then take the major step of getting married and that too with the right person.
Step#1 – Basics
She never needs to know what your real worth is in dollar amount. What exactly is your salary? How much is your bank balance and all the money related questions should be either avoided or some details should be left out on purpose.
Step#2 – Provoke Her
Give her hints about what you want your wife to do in future as like no finances will be merged and your point of view related to the life they will have after marriage so that she has a clear idea and you can look out for clues for if she is freaking out or making a compromise or if she is genuinely interested in the ideas of you two living together.
Step#3 – Family Background Matters
Look at her financial position. If she is from a rich family than all your worries are in vein because she already has all the money and of course it’s you she is interested in and cares for but is she is broke and is in a lot of debt and facing many financial charges; this might be your clue.
Step#4 – Bill Payments
All the time you spent together what type of spending she is engaged in. is she always asking for expensive gifts and look out for whether she is always demanding things from you that requires more money than getting happy on small joys of life which a person in love with you should be. She is calling you from the hairdresser to tell you she has no money for the kids to go to school or that she has no food in the house for them. Lie! If she was so concerned, a hairdo would be the last thing on her mind.
Step#5 – Dating For Shopping and Expensive Food
When you ask her where she would like to go, she tells you that she wants to be shopping. [Read: How to Treat the Girl You Love]. Now, I am all for shopping and taking the guy around too, but if you are the one that is paying, then she is definitely using you for your money. After impressing her on the first or second date, take her to a few inexpensive places like Red Lobster and see how she reacts. If she reacts unappreciative or complains, she is either a digger, or may be too high maintenance. Don’t be a punk or weak for the panties and call the digger back. If you do, you may as well hire a dime quality call girl which will save you some money and more than a few migraine headaches in the long run.
Step#6 – Over Concerned
A girl who is only after your money or a gold digger is always interested in hearing about your career and financial status from day one. She is a very manipulative woman who pretends to be interested in you by asking questions about your occupation so she can discover your job title, measure your earnings’ potential and ensure that you have plenty of income to spend on her and support her lifestyle.
Step#7 – Controlling Finances may Lead to End of Relationship
And, after that, she’ll immediately find someone new (with a credit card with no limit). The bottom line is, some men really dig this kind of girl. But, if you are gonna keep her; you are going to have to pay to play. There is nothing wrong with wanting a trophy girl on your arm if that is going to make you happy. However, in my own humble opinion, I think a geeky girl with a spunky personality beats this other crap hands down. But then again, I’m a girl, what do I know. #justsayin
Step#8 – Bottom Line
Make sure that what if you lose everything, will she still be in love with you. For this play out some scene and show yourself to be facing some serious financial issues and warn her about the scenario that things might turn out negative and check her out whether she bears and support you in difficult times or not.
Follow these steps and look out for clues to see whether her love for you is eternal or is with your bank balance. There had been many events in the past and if we open our eyes we come to know that many are still happening in daily life. Once such a thing comes to us, we take it for granted.