Many women prefer the challenge of opening the whole, reserved guy alone at the bar. But while many women prefer modest, shy boy who listens more than he speaks, being too shy can become downright boring for them after a while. [10 Things Women Hate About Men]
Shy Men try to get the Girl Interested
The first error is cons-intuitive. Typically shy guy will try to find patterns or tricks to get girls to like them. They scour the internet for tips and techniques on how to “do” girls or how to get the sex girls. [Also Read: Mistakes Made by Men in Bed While Making Loved]
Women absolutely hate this kind of thing!
Why? Well, imagine that you have something that people want. For example, a really nice car.
Your friends will always call you to try to go out with them, they will try to make you lend the car or try to give them a turn trying to be nice to you or trying to be your best friend
You can immediately tell that their intentions are not genuine – they just want you for the car and do not care about you otherwise – and it pisses you off. Sometimes you can even fall for it, thinking that a guy is honest and that your best friend when he was only interested in your material possessions. When he gets what he wanted and leave you, is when you see what a jerk manipulation, it really was!
How do you feel? Is it not make you feel used? Welcome to the reality of every attractive woman!
She is approached every day by strangers who want to get a chance to look at them or want to get in her pants. And these guys are willing to do anything, take on expensive dinners, buy her things, be nice to her and become her best friend, and a plethora of other things just so he could get it he wants.
The sad thing is that when women fall for it, they end up getting hurt and scars for life. They eventually resentment of men and having a hard time trusting them.
Then there are guys who will teach you to do the opposite. They will tell you to be a fool for women, overwhelm and pretend you’re not interested and do not want anything from them. This may work sometimes, but usually it will attract girls low self esteem are craving attention of men. If this is who you are after, then this is fine, but I personally prefer women with high self-esteem. These women see through your games and you dismiss as immature.
Lack of Decision Making Ability
This is by far the most common mistake. Under the guise of gender equality will be indecisive and timid girl to make the decision. It’s almost as if they do not want to take responsibility for their leader because they are afraid she will not like his ideas.
How many times a girl you asked “So, what do you wanna do?” And you answered “I do not know what you want to do?” It may seem innocent to you, in fact, you may think that you do this because you care about her, but what she sees This is a man who is not strong enough to drive and she is frustrated.
Women hate it when guys act indecisive and can not make up their mind!
You see, under all women are really looking for someone who will take charge and show them the way. This is your default role as masculine man, to lead with confidence. When you act indecisive and hesitant to make a decision for fear of disapproval, she sees you as a weak female.
The secret to women leaders is to have multiple ideas in your head and to propose to her. If she agrees then great, if it suggests something, then you can always make the final decision. If it is then it is doubtful you say “Ok, let’s take a ride and we’ll grab a bite later” She will happily follow.
Women want men strong, confident who can drive. Why?
It shows that you have the traits necessary to be a survivor and she will rather be with a man who knows what he is doing because it is very likely that these traits will be transferred to their offspring and give little better chance of survival as well.
This is why you will need to find ideas that are beneficial to you and then suggest them. Other times, you’ll want to keep the secret plans and surprising, but it is only for later in the relationship.
They Misunderstand the Sexual Nature of Women
Shy guys tend to be too shy sexually. They do not fully understand their own sexual nature and are not in touch with their masculinity.They have “either bought into the idea that sex is bad or they have to be discreet about their sexual desire and hide. Some guys shy even ashamed of their sexual desires for women.
The other hypothesis shy guy is that good women are not supposed to be sexually expressive, or worse, they assume that women are not excited and do not like sex and those who are not good women are sluts.
This is a huge stumbling block that can derail your life in the same room after you get married. This is usually the result of social programming from a young age as a way to protect yourself so you do not screw up early in life with things like pregnancy and disease.
If you’re one of those guys, the way to reverse this is to begin to learn about female sexuality. Read books on him. Maybe even a romance so you can see if you can understand the psychology behind it.
Beginning to realize that women are human beings like you and me, and they also drives. Do not forget to procreate a man and a woman are having sex. This is why nature has made impulses.
Women are built for several times the amount of pleasure a man can do. Can you imagine having a whole organ whose purpose is to experience pleasure? With wave after wave of multiple orgasms for hours?
I know what it is because I used to have the same problem myself. It was like a big wall that I had to slow down gradually. It was not easy, but with a lot of work to try to understand my desires and reading as much as I could on the subject of sexuality, I reached a level of understanding that is now light years away where I was before.
Now I understand that it is difficult for women to express their sexuality as as society in general frowns and looks down on women who speak openly about it. Women fear the social stigma of the label “slut” more than anything! When you understand this, you will understand how the discretion on your part will bring you lots of women who are happy to share their bodies with you because they know you will not be everyone and tell all your friends.
They Underestimate Themselves in Comparison with Women
One of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with the idea that I was not worthy of a hot girl. Somehow I had put into my head the idea that hot girl has many options and can choose who she wants, so why would she choose? This almost made me just sub-par girls that I get very nervous when talking to a girl I perceived as “out of my league”
If you like it, then you must understand that there are two fundamentally wrong assumptions here. The first is the idea that hot girl has a lot of options and the second is the idea that you have no value just by yourself.
Firstly, it seems that a hot girl has a lot of options. There are a lot of guys pursuing her, trying to make out with them and you would think that she can choose from a large number of guys. Reality from the point of view of a woman is different.
I know a girl who goes on many dates. She accepts invitations to go on dates a lot of guys who want to be his friend and yet she is still single. It is not that she did not have a boyfriend, she has certainly had its share, but in reality, she can not trust every guy who comes in and wants to go out with her. She is looking for a particular person and despite the large pool of guys she goes out with a guy that is perfect for her far.
The next time you have a chance, ask a friend or coworker about the kind of guys who approach compared to those for whom it ends dating long term. So what does that mean? This means that if you are the right person for it, you have a chance! And the only way to find out is by asking him out.
Let us second the idea that you have no value or that you are not worthy. There are two symptoms for this problem. The first is to think: “I can not be more intelligent,” “I can be cool”, “I can be more laborious,” “I can be more social” where you compare to your ideal self.
Although this is a great to help you work on yourself to improve, you must realize that you are not competing for women with ideal self. You can still be “imperfect” according to your standards, but that does not mean that you have no value. Just the fact that you’re a living, breathing organism means that you are valuable.
The second symptom is when you compare an imaginary type out there that is bigger than you, more athletic, more beautiful and more successful than you. This is the same thing as you compare the “ideal you” unless the ideal is someone who does not exist.
The other thing you have to your advantage is the uniqueness that only you can offer. In other words, it can get you. When you start to understand that women are attracted to your character traits and personality far more than they are attracted by looks or money, then you can finally relax and get the girls you like and really see if they match your criteria.
Hesitation to Look for Signals Before Approaching Women
One of the most difficult things for a shy guy to deal with is to find whether a girl is interested in him and try to read his signs of interest. He seeks green light tell him with certainty that it looks so go ask her out and not have to worry about her saying no.
There are several issues at stake here. First, is the idea that you have to read the signs of a woman before going inside and out asking. This idea comes from the many stories that women talk about guys asking when – in his mind – it is clearly not interested in them. It wrongly assumes that the guy should be able to read his thoughts.
In her mind, she thinks she showed no sign of interest he should have read the “signs” before approaching. There is some truth in this. You would not ask a girl without first finding out if this is the kind of person you want to date. In reality, you can not read his mind.
There is only one sure way to know if a woman is interested. It’s called respect. What this means is that it is work to know you better. She made her part of the equation. When you ask her out she said yes and she even donated his phone number or email. When you call to set a date it accepts, then she goes out with you.
If it does its part to get to know you, then it is either a spoiled child who has a habit of men who do everything for her or she is not interested. Anyway, you have a very clear and you can act accordingly. If you continue to make an effort as she does not cooperate, they will lose interest in you.
There is also another hypothesis that is understood, but not verbalized that if a girl is showing signs of being interested in you, then you should ask her out.
The hidden theme is that women make the choice and then follow the men. It chooses you and then you should go for it, regardless of whether it is the girl for you, because this is the best you can do now. There are many shy guys I know who say that the only action they get is women who come to them.
While this may be true in the animal kingdom where the male presents his trick to impress the female and cause it to choose to mate with, I think you also have a choice. You should choose the right girl for you from the pool of girls who are interested in you. Ultimately, it is a mutual choice.