Every relationship will go through different stages. Through these stages, the relationship will grow or falter based on what participants do. There is a time in a relationship when her boyfriend starts working on its own business. These internal issues include questions about their relationship. Also include questions about his life and where it goes. At this point in your relationship, it will be tempting to want to have to talk your way through your internal questions. You can not do this if you want your relationship to last through this stage. Your boyfriend needs space to reach their own conclusions. A constant questioning that only causes confusion in your mind and prolong the time it will take to reach their conclusions.
If he asks for a couple of days, then give him a couple of days. If he asks for a couple of weeks, then give him that time. Take care of yourself as well.
Some guys won’t come right out and tell you that they need some time alone. You may feel something is wrong by the way he’s acting toward you. Asking for answers is perfectly alright, especially if you refrain from appearing too needy. Simply offer some space to figure things out.
Limit Your Concerns
Concern is a part of affection and it is quite natural that you are worried and concerned about the well being and happiness of your boyfriend. So, calling him up a couple of times or asking him about things is normal. But do not overdo that. If you keep calling and texting him all day or bombarding questions on him always, then it will only irritate him.
He may find no concern of yours in that but may feel that you are trying to keep track of him and his doings. He may also get a feeling that you ask him questions or keep enquiring about things because you don’t trust him. All these will surely do much harm to your relationship with him. Always remember that everything is good when it is done in moderation and anything when done in excess turns poisonous.
Don’t be Clingy
You need to keep in mind to give your boyfriend time is to stop expecting him to spend every free minute either with you or talking to you over the phone. Understand that he has a life of his own, and until he makes a commitment to you in terms of marriage, he will still have a life of his own no matter how much you love each other. Understanding and accepting this will help condition your mind with regard to further steps in giving him space. [Read: 10 Biggest Secrets to a Happy Married Life]
Expressions of Love
Go slow on verbal expressions of love, [Read: How to Start a Winning Conversation with Someone You Meet]. Some women want to keep getting reassured as often as possible that they are loved and cherished. While this is natural and women do have the need to feel loved, expecting your man to keep on telling you that he loves you will end up annoying him. There are many ways in which a man expresses his love – these ways can range to a simple look, a touch, a gift or just an occasion he takes out of his busy life to spend time either with you or talking to you. Look for ways in which he shows you that he cares, instead of always expecting him to say that he cares. Apart from this, avoid repeatedly telling him that you love him. After a while, it becomes meaningless. In order for your words to really mean a lot to him, limit them and express them in a way that he will never forget.
Make Him Want You
Once you plan to give some space to your boyfriend, it is time that you start to take out some time for yourself too apart from keeping up the relationship with your boyfriend. Go with your friends, have shopping, partying etc and make sure your boyfriend knows about it. In this relationship, once you start giving your boyfriend a lot of space, he will realize quickly the true worth of you and your time. This will make him crave for you more and hence, a sparkle will ignite again in your relationship.
Get Space for Yourself Too
Feeling lost when he asks for space is a good indication that you need it as much as he does – if not more so. Use this time to contemplate your life and emotional state. Become the strong, confident, and independent woman you’ve always wanted to be; you don’t need him to ensure your peace and happiness.
Be happy and carefree, learn to love yourself as much as you love him, and find constructive ways to share time together and apart. Once you’ve got the balance sorted, you’ll never look back.
Another tip to save your relationship at this point is to remain friends. Never lose touch, even if you are not seeing each other for a while or have been through a recent relationship break up. Keep the communication lines open. Also, use this time to introspect. Think, what is it that made your boyfriend take such a step. Were you too pushy or nagging him all the time? Did you not give him enough space? Did you start taking him for granted and stopped doing things for him to make him feel special? So, one of the ways to save your relationship is to think hard about your own personality, about the things that you could have done to alienate him and then try to change them.
Making a relationship work is easier if you have parted over some trivial issues. In the end, all I can say is to keep the love between you two alive and kicking, do not let that initial spark that brought you two together, ever die! Remember to be yourself always and at the same time caring for the one you love. Live and let live – that’s the mantra for a successful relationship!