There are few people who dislike me. I am a private person in general do not want to spend time around someone does not mean that I do not like them. I probably just do not like them that much. That being said, people like me back.
Break the ice and start talking to someone can be very difficult. Someone you’ve never talked before may seem big and scary. Here are some ways to get people talking that I understood.
Pay Attention to Context
The language is part of a complex system of communication. This is one of the points that help us understand our world, but “before we can collect the points, we need to collect the points.”
So you should always pay attention to the following “points.” Who am I making the speech? Who am I speaking to? Where is the current conversation? Why is this happening?
Nonverbal communication and indices lend context to the words that are spoken. Pay attention to your body language breath, and feeling your reaction to what you say and hear.
It has been my experience that if you simply try to “think” your way through a conversation, you can miss a lot. Your body’s reaction can tell you a lot if you stop and notice.
Feeling confused, distracted, fear, anger, ill at ease, calm, happy or sad, when you say or hear something is always an element of information about the conversation. It may be on the other person, you, or what happens in the space between the two of you as you speak. But whatever it is, there is always information that can be extremely useful, because he always told the truth about something.
If you want people to like you and want to get to know you, politeness helps a lot. I’m not saying that you should aspire to them, but treat them with respect. There is a tendency to be rude these days comes from the cinema and television. It’s fun to watch, but this is not how the real world works. When Clint Eastwood is rude and nasty, it’s fascinating – if you are rude or unpleasant, you’re just someone who is not helpful to have something to do with it. Everyone knows what you’re supposed to do, to be polite – to practice and you will go far with new friends.
Practice Confidence Remove Shyness [Read: 5 Reasons Why Women Don’t Like Shy Men]
While shyness and confidence are evidently contrary, you can combine them to open a conversation with a high efficiency. Have confidence in forcing you to talk to the person in question, but not be shy as to let them know that you respect them enough to worry about their response. Most people will either try to bowl the other person of their confidence, putting off or never speak of them in the first place.
The trick is to combine the two approaches. Simply speak with a loud “How are you?” Will break the ice. Proceed to shy respectful conversation. Most people are not bad enough to refuse politely timid approach.
It is an old technique, but it works well. Since you do not know the person very well, you do not want to meddle in anything too personal to start. Just keep friendly and respectful, do not go into polling mode. Find something about them to ask what is likely to receive more than a simple yes or no answer – “I like your watch, where are you?”, “Are you guys busy up there this time? “,” Do you work in the city? “,” Have you watched the tennis last night? “
Compliment and Agree
I used to take me seriously. I realized that I could tell people: “You’re right.” Then never see them again and sleep very well at night. When a conversation with someone you do not know very well, do not be afraid to run their ego a little listening. And agreement.More often than not, people start conversations just to talk about what they want to talk. This generally leads to talk to them because it is more likely that they are an authority on the subject.
Do Not Worry if He / She is Not Friendly As You
Everyone gets nervous when talking to someone they do not know very well. Sometimes we react badly even if we do not want. If someone is a little frank with you, acting strangely, seems disinterested or the first couple of times you talk to them, do not worry too much. They are probably just nervous and need to get used to the idea that you’re just being friendly. Give them a little space and time to think and often they will come around. You’ll be surprised how often these people earn respect from you as you continue to be friendly with them. [Read: How to Start a Conversation with a Girl]
Accept Occasional Silences
Enjoy a drink or a bite of your dinner while you do the next thing you want to say. Something that was said to generate a new thought or topic in your mind? Use the break to transition smoothly into further conversation.
Know when Conversation is Over
Even the best conversations will die out or be terminated by an interrupt. Smile, say you have enjoyed the conversation and say goodbye. Ending on a positive note will the other person wants to talk to you again.