Why do women date jerks? The answer to this question is actually much more complicated than we think. We’ll have to blame Mother Nature for this seemingly illogical behavior.
Men want to ensure that their genes inseminate while females want to ensure they are imbued with the best genes available. If you ask women what kind of guy they want, they usually say they want someone honest, loyal, ambitious, intelligent, etc. However, this is not what they are usually attracted. Women are attracted by the personality of a man above all, the measuring stick used by them revolves around calculation of his genetic superiority or lack thereof. [Ways to Destroy Your Relationship]
Jerk and Nice Guy Comparison
A dominant male personality (if he falls into this category) is generally preferred to a man who is the subject (otherwise known as a “sissy”). The first is sending an unconscious message that he has great genes and is not afraid of losing the woman of misconduct. It sends a message that he did not think their genes are good enough, then he will put up with almost anything.
When women are attracted to jerks, this is due to an emotional event that took place at some point in their lives. Most common reason of women dating jerks is in case when she has lost her father at a very young age. Usually, this emotional void leads her to look for any man to fulfill this gap, and when she finds it, she becomes so attached to the jerk that she’ll just take any abuse thrown at her. Seems bad but it is one of the most common cause, while none of the studies have yet been carried out to find out the reason why it happens. Also there are many women from normal families who date jerks.
Jerks Know What Women Need
What women want and what they need are two different things. You see, civilization dictates that women want a good family man. But evolution tells women they need a man with strong dominant personality to ensure strong offspring, [Read: Ways to Keep Your Girlfriend Happy]. Unfortunately for them, it is their animal instinct that replace their learned behavior.
Jerks have Energized Behavior
It is not that women deliberately seek jerks, but they are attracted by certain behaviors that meet their mating instincts genetically programmed. This has much to do with estrogen – the hormone emotion – as opposed to testosterone – the hormone response. This is why women are attracted to men who can make feel, feel, feel energized – not bored.
Unfortunately, these behaviors are also observed primarily in those guys whom people usually name jerks. Thus, women are not bad people at all, they have no choice but to fall for these alpha males, strong and indomitable. [Tips on How to Impress a Girl and Attract Her]
Female unconscious instincts draw on his excitement danger, but often switches Sexual excitement when he’s nice with it, [Read: How to Make a Girl Fall in Love with You]. The excitement is the awakening to the primitive areas of the brain, until our greatest intellectual ability to decode social scenarios kicks, and while in the gray area between the two, and bad boy jerk are attractive to women.
However, the excitement and passion of words have also been used in one other area of the human condition – that threatens our lives, as in “crimes of passion” or involve “feel more alive” or “the roof of the world “as being” awakened from his sleep, “or a rallying cry” was born form the crowd.
Jerks Provide Sense of Security
And this is why women date bad boys and jerks. There is some “threat” to them, “danger” is alarming and palpable. When combined with some occasional friendly, it gives the woman something to worry about. “Is it dangerous? And if so, could it be dangerous for the things that threaten me if I’m his wife? “These questions give the woman a sense of security and even ironic mystery of the bad boy jerk.
Do Women Really Love Jerks?
Keeping all the above thoughts in mind, the answer of this question is simple ‘NO’. Loving someone and dating are two different things. A woman can never love someone who treats her badly or in some cases to the extent of abusing her, [Read: How to Treat the Girl You Love]. The above given reasons are only time bound. As a matter of fact note a jerk and will realize that he has never been into a permanent relationship with any girl. A simple immaturity or lack of knowledge leads those innocent girls to encounter jerks.
This does not mean that you should be a jerk or bad boy, only that you should cultivate a little less pleasant and people kindness, and firmness and solidity of what works for you as a choice, and what does not.